You Deserve Better...
I have this quote on my wall near my front door…
“The moment that you start to wonder if you deserve better, you do.”
Let that sink in for a moment….
How many times have you wondered that…. ‘I deserve better’…. in the past day…week…year?
It’s International Women’s Day today and what better day to take a moment and think about, reflect on what we truly deserve.
I’m a participant in Danika Brysha’s You Year 2020 program and its scares me a bit to include this in this post, but a part of this program is to identify our Desired Feelings and to look ahead 5 years and write a short biography of 5 years from now.
Here’s what I wrote…
DESIRED FEELINGS/Biography Of 5 Years From Now:
Ardis is growth, expansive, proud, self-aware (my Desired Feelings). She operates a therapeutic farm/centre for those with mental and physical disabilities and the therapies offered are based around animals and the outdoors. Ardis is healthy, confident, fulfilled and has built a career of helping others.
Yes, I’m proud that my career of almost 20 years has already focused around helping others as a R.Kin and a CMDP, holding roles such as a Disability Management Consultant, HRBP, Manager - Group Disability etc, but….I deserve more.
I want to grow and expand. I want to work on my self-awareness and many of us in this type of ‘helping’ profession put the wants and needs of other first, but I deserve to be more aware of me…myself…what I want and what I need in my career, friendships, relationships, health, fitness etc.
Because of this…I’m starting a new chapter…one that I hope will move me towards my goal of having this therapeutic centre in 5 years from now. It’s time to write a new story.
I don’t talk about my career , my ‘9-5’ very often, but I had worked for an employer for 6 years, ventured out to new opportunities for 2 years, returned to that employer for the past 3 years and what I inevitably thought would be my last employer of my career. Well….that just wasn’t how that chapter was written and I start on a new venture tomorrow that I know will bring the growth and expansion I’ve been yearning for, will make me proud and will force me to be more self-aware as this is a brand new slate for me to ensure a more well rounded approach between my work and personal life (I’m not very good at that….at all….just ask my friends and family - ie. vacation, what’s vacation?). I’ll still be working in the field of helping others and I’m getting back to my Disability Management roots, with a flavour of HR thrown in for good measure.
Ladies, one thing I have learned is that we must create our own opportunities. We must drive who we are, who we want to be and where we’re headed. No one is going to take the wheel for you.
We deserve the absolute best.
That being said, what we have currently in front of us could be absolutely fantastic, with no issues or concerns…but…sometimes…that urge, that yearning for something more…something different and more aligned with who we are as an individual surfaces and we’d do ourselves no favours to not at least explore it. That’s the case with me. I’d have kicked myself if I hadn’t thrown my hand up for this opportunity, even though where I was had so many great things about it. I want more…I deserve more…..it’s time to go out and get it!
Like the quote below states….’she woke up different…and it was this day that her life changed’. That view ahead for the next 5 years awoke something in me and while the plans are still in their infancy for my own farm/centre to help others,I’m well on my way and I can’t wait to see what the next 5 years bring because after all, we deserve better!!
